About to Freak Out? Get the Wrigley’s!

When I was in college I hated Algebra. To this day I don’t know why I had to learn it; I never use it. Whenever I had to take a test, I had to – and I mean HAD TO – chew gum. Somehow it helped me do better on the test. I figured it was some sort of stress reliever because I was chomping my teeth together, but I didn’t know there was science behind it. Apparently chewing gum lowers the stress hormones in your body so it helps reduce stress. The increased blood flow to your brain also keeps you … [Read more...]

Best way to practice emotion management? Get a puppy!

It’s been 18 years since I had a puppy. I mean a real puppy. You know, with the wonderful puppy breath and the razor sharp tiny teeth and claws? Well last week I became mother to a nine-week old Golden Retriever. Yes, that's his cute mug in the picture. This afternoon he tested my emotional management skill by tearing into my star gazer lilies. I left him outside alone for one minute while I checked an email. When I came out, he had torn through the fence barricade and was lying in a bed of … [Read more...]

How Not to Fly Off Like a 747

I just flew off the handle like a 747! Can you relate to this? When unpleasant things happen and we don’t manage our emotional impulses, it can get us in trouble. I referenced this as being cubed in my previous two posts. Daniel Goleman calls this an emotional hijack. Emotions are taking over and we act accordingly. Unfortunately our reactions don’t serve us well. In my last post we looked at three simple techniques to self regulate. In today’s post, we’ll explore something a little more in … [Read more...]

Keep Your Cool When It Gets Hot

  In my last post, I introduced the idea of getting ‘cubed’ or being simultaneously smart and stupid. These momentary lapses in judgment when our emotions squelch our logic can wreak havoc on our business and personal success.   As promised, in this post we’ll look at ways to avoid those moments.  How you can remain serene. When you were a kid and got really upset about something, what did your parents tell you to do? Take a deep breath? Count to 10? Walk away? Take a time out? It turns out … [Read more...]

Have You Been Cubed?

What was I thinking? Have you ever wondered that? Maybe right after you did something you knew you shouldn’t do, but at the time you really wanted to do it? I call that being ‘cubed’ which is short for being 'S to the third power’ or ‘S cubed’. We just become Simultaneously Smart and Stupid. We know the right thing to do but we can’t help but do the opposite. Think about the last time you were in a hurry to get to work and some idiot cut you off in traffic. You knew better than to ride his … [Read more...]

Stressed? Overwhelmed? Unable to focus? Want a simple fix?

I’d be preaching to the choir if I said most of us are stressed and overwhelmed with too much on our plates and a real inability to focus.  That’s a given.   So what? The ‘so what’ is that we are taxing our brains to try to multi-task and get everything done. But neuroscientists will tell you that there is no such thing as true multi-tasking; the brain must stop one task to begin another – unless one of the tasks is a rote physical habit like breathing or walking.  All the stopping and … [Read more...]

Does Emotional Intelligence Really Affect the Bottom Line?

By now you’ve probably heard the term Emotional Intelligence and you might have a good idea what it means.  Being smart with your emotions is the simplest answer, although not a complete one, and will suffice for now.  Before we determine how or if it affects the bottom line, let’s take a look at what emotional intelligence looks like in terms of behavior.  Here are twelve keystone examples. Someone with high emotional intelligence is someone who: inspires trust and commitment to … [Read more...]

Worried About Getting Stuck in Snow and Ice?

With the wintery mix approaching Georgia, it’s a great opportunity to use your best emotional intelligence (EQ) skills.  Here’s how: If you absolutely cannot avoid traveling on the snow and ice, begin visualizing how you will keep your cool if something bad were to happen.  Visualization creates neuro connections in the brain that enable you to more readily do what you’ve envisioned. If you find yourself stuck in the snow or ice, use self regulation techniques like deep breathing and … [Read more...]

The BEST Reason Yet to Use a Coach

I was talking today with a coaching client’s manager about progress on the coachee’s action plan and she echoed a challenge that I’ve heard so many times before.  She said that their culture is one of mass chaos, everything is moving so fast all the time and you never have time to stop and just think.  All of these thoughts were rolling around in her head in disarray but she couldn’t find the time to reflect and organize them into a plan of action.  In speaking with me, she was able to get her … [Read more...]

5 Simple Techniques to Regain Peak Energy and Performance

Did you know that our brains are programmed to take a twenty-minute break after 90 minutes of intense focus or activity, according to psycho-biology researcher Ernest Rossi, PhD – a leading expert on ultradian rhythms and how they affect human biology? And taking that break is the most important thing you can do to optimize your energy and attention.  Without getting too technical, it has something to do with our cells using up energy resources in that enable us to see and think clearly.  We … [Read more...]